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Jojo – A Life as Great as Any …

Posted on September 13, 2017. Filed under: Guide Posts, Personal Stuff, Personalities |

An edited Version of Raj Mehta’s Tribute. –

What can you say about a brave, outstanding Cavalry officer who was blinded at 22?

That he was blinded by by an Anti Tk shell hitting the turret of his tank as he stood in the open turret in the 1965 War. That he was a topper in all he did? That he was handsome, personable, perceptive and lovable. That the only battle he ever lost, was surrendering with a half smile to the insidious lung cancer.

His name – Jayanta Kumar Sengupta. Born on 17 October 1942, Chotu was the second son of Amar Prashad, a corporate executive, and Namita Sengupta. He left Huddard High School after making it to the Rashtriya Indian Military College (RIMC), Dehra Dun. He was adjudged ‘Best Cadet’ – stood 1st in the All-India UPSC order of merit for NDA and won the Gold Medal for the 22nd course at NDA and again the Gold Medal at IMA, passing out tops with the 31st course.

Commissioned into India’s oldest Cavalry Regiment, the 16th Light Cavalry in December 1962, Chotu was awarded the Silver Centurion trophy for best Young Officer at Ahmadnagar. When the 1965 Indo-Pak War started, he was attending a Gunnery course at ‘Nagar.

Currently US based veteran, Lt Col Kartar Singh Sidhu Brar, Chotu’s CO, recalls that Chotu rejoined the Regiment on 17 September and that Chotu “had a very special place in our hearts”. On arrival on 17 September, Chotu was appointed troop leader in B Squadron under Maj ‘Morris’ Ravindran.

On 21 September morning, Chotu was standing up out of the cupola with his binocs when his tank got a direct hit on the turret. The blinding flash, splinters and glass lacerated his face. ‘Wendy’ Dewan who was close recalls Chotu’s calmness – “I can’t see but I’m fine. How are the boys?” Chotu was placed on blankets on a tank deck and brought to RHQ where Gen Rajinder Singh had landed and him evacuated.

After Army Hospital Delhi, Chotu was moved to INS Aswini. His optic nerve was severed and that meant “profound, 100 percent blindness”. At St Dunstan’s he learnt Brail, powered by his wit, humour, zest for life. In 1967, he was boarded out from the Army with 100 percent disability.

In a rare interview, he smilingly recalled that ‘there was no emotional setback following the mishap. Indeed, my family and the Army were strong sources of support.” He added that his St Dunstan’s stay where soldiers blinded in war are trained was a godsend – it was a new beginning. ‘I met a lot of Britishers with a similar disability. Seeing them go about their work inspired me.”

Focusing on winning the ‘Battle of Life’, this unassuming, genuine real-life hero attracted people like a magnet. He took up a dealership with Tata Oil Mills and in 1972, he was allotted a LPG dealership in Siliguri by the Army and he relocated there from Calcutta with infectious positivity.

In 1977, Chotu got married to Ms Rita Biswas – a teacher driven by passion. The duo were like minded, compassionate and compelling. Jojo is on record paying his wife a handsome tribute for bringing greater focus, happiness and harmony in his life. Blessed with twin daughters, Sreemoyee and Sreerupa and a younger son Bibek, he and his wife were well settled when his number of days on Earth were completed. He on August 31, 2013 but his family is living out his dreams with character courage.

Jojo had kept the Honour Board ticking. He did his BA from North Bengal University obtaining the expected ‘First-class-First’. He routinely won the ‘Best Dealer’ Award from Tata Oil for several years. As an LPG dealer at Siliguri, his consumers remember with awe how he had memorized some 8000 subscriber names, consumer numbers and addresses, compelling them to call up ‘Joy Da’ – to verify their details instantaneously when seeking gas refills, terminations or transfers of LPG connections.

Chotu went through a transformation in 1990 by taking up social work on a large scale. By 1998 he, Rita and friends had founded the Prerana Educational Centre. Flourishing, it has 145 physically challenged students on its rolls. Earlier in 1990, Jojo had also founded the North Bengal Council for the Disabled (NBCD) to run the centre.

Apart from Prerana, he also reached towards the rural handicapped under the Community Based Rehabilitation (CBR) program. Since 1998, about 700 villages around Siliguri have been covered to help the rural disabled to cope. Jojo ensured that the CBR became a WHO certified initiative which today benefits some 3000 people.

In 2003, Capt Sengupta’s daughter, Sreerupa married Maj Gopal Mitra, SM (Retd). Alas Maj Mitra was totally blinded in a terrorist encounter in Kupwara, Kashmir. Commissioned into 15 Mahar, this St Xavier’s Calcutta Honours graduate suffered total visual impairment.

He underwent extensive reconstructive surgery but his military career was over. The young gallantry award winner underwent several reorientation courses, ending up with his being the first blind student to top a Tata Institute of Social Sciences (TISS), Mumbai post graduate course.

Mitra then did M.Sc. in Development Management at the London School of Economics (LSE) with outstanding grades. After several career advancements, he is now with the United Nations Children’s Emergency Fund as Programme Specialist for Disability. Sreerupa completed her Masters from LSE, London and now works at the United Nations along with husband Gopal.

Her twin, Sreemoyee completed her Masters in Early Years Education from the famous Institute of Education, London and now teaches at Neev School, Bangalore.

Jojo’s son, Bibek, is a top-notch financial expert and Chotu’s sister-in-law, Nalini Sengupta, runs the famous Vidya Valley School at Pune, where Chotu was on the Founding Governing Board. Ms Rita carries on her legacy with Jojo and has ensured that the Institutions they started are vibrant and flourishing.

Suffering for almost a year from lung cancer, Capt Sengupta passed away at Command Hospital Pune at 0945 hours on 31 August 2013. Chotu had realised a week or so before his death that he would lose this battle.
Brave and courageous as always, he requested to ba shifted to the Officers Ward from the ICU where he could be visited by only a few and very briefly.

He faced death with the same calmness that was his trademark during all the turbulence in his life.

Arriving 15 minutes after he had gone with his trademark of a lingering, wry smile while nurses, doctors, officers were in tears and his family stood bowed in respectful silent grief.

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For those wanting to know about the Division and what it did ..
https://improveacrati.wordpress.com/2010/09/08/indo-pak-war-sep-1965-part-1/

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1965 War – PAK Comment on Battle of BUTTAR DOGRAN DI 16-17 Sep 1965

Posted on June 29, 2015. Filed under: From a Services Career, Personal Stuff |

It was most heartening to receive a mail from Sikander Pasha , curtsy whom there shall shortly be posts from Maj Shamshad Ali Khan of 25 Cav re this battle in which 8
Garhwalis lost a Commanding Officer each day. Over to Sikander Pasha

Dear Brig Bhullar,

I am a Lahore based retired engineer with some interest in indo pak military history. While surfing the net, I bumped into your most interesting and amusing writings describing the operations of 8 Garhwal Rifles during the 1965 conflict.

Totally impressed, I wanted to congratulate you for penning down your admirable memories, I undertook the daunting task to find your identity as you chose to write under the name of Getafix 7. Considering my basic IT skills, it was one hell of a job tracing you to Brig JS Bhullar and then to Jogi Bhullar. Finally, I came across your facebook last year but found it inoperative since 2013. I hope you are fine and haven’t lost any of your vim or vigor that you displayed in 1965. Saw your pic on Facebook wearing a hat and you look handsome at 74.

Coming to your articles, I would first like to draw your attention to the one describing the battle of Buttar Dogran di on 17 Sept. You write:

“Suddenly a shiver went through the whole company because coming towards us were two Pattons, one behind the other. I was surprised to see them come rather hesitantly and very very slowly.
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Poona Horse was evidently fighting its own battle somewhere and we were on our own. I got Gulab, with his antitank grenades to my command post. I thought of taking the shot myself but thinking that it would be bad for morale if I missed, I coached Gulab who was pretty jittery and forgot to rest his rifle in the corner of the trench.
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As he fired, we saw the grenade take a slow curved flight towards the leading tank. For a split second I thought that my range estimation had been low. But no, the grenade managed to just reach the tank and it hit and burst on the tank tracks. The tank shuddered and came to a dead stop.”

The above tank troop belonged to 25 Cavalry and was commanded by Lt Shamshad Ali Khan who happens to be an internet friend living in Karachi. A couple of days back, I had sent your narration to Major Shamshad who now acknowledges that it was his very tank that was disabled by Gulab that day. But Maj shamshad wasnt really amused to read what was further written as to how the crew of the tank clambered down and ran back to the rear tank. ( LOL).

However, the good part of the story is that both you and shamshad survived that battle and both have written down very interesting narrations of their experiences, and above all both are alive today after 50 years of the conflict. If you want I can email you the writings of Maj Shamshad covering the 17 days conflict.

Secondly, while covering the events of 8 Sept, you describe an ambush laid by a Pak Recce and Support Battalion on the coloumn of 16 Cav before it contacted 25 Cav, where in you describe destruction of a near dozen tanks.

In no way do I doubt what you write, but this major event goes un noticed by most historians of both countries. The reason that I buy you narration is that by the evening of 8 Sept, when 16 Cav accounted for its losses, they found themselves short of 16 tanks.

B Squadron of 25 Cavalry which contacted 16 Cav near Gadgore claims destroying 4 tanks during the first skirmish. C squadron 25 cav did not establish contact with 16 cav and as such has no claim during the first battle. A squadron was in engagement with Poona Horse.

So summing up the losses of 16 Cav on 8 sept, the total figure of 16 appears to be closer to reality, if we take into account the ambush by R&S platoon which according to your narration claimed near 12 tanks.

Bhullar sahib, would you be able to throw some more light on this ambush as a friend of mine who belongs to 13 FF R&S has been claiming this very operation alongwith destruction of a battery of 101 SP regiment near Kingra area perhaps on 8 sept, but many appear to be not impressed. I thought you would be the best person to reverify this.

You have some exceptional writing skills besides fighting skills. Keep them up.

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The One and Only Capt Jojo Sengupta passes away – 31 Aug ’13

Posted on September 6, 2013. Filed under: From a Services Career, Indian Thought, Personal Stuff, Personalities, Searching for Success |

This is from his Family –

Capt.JK Sengupta was one of the founding trustees of Vidya Valley School. We will miss him very much.

Our family called him Jojo. His friends from NDA and IMA called him Chotu or Shorty. On the Honour Rolls of NDA and the IMA he is Jayanta Kumar Sengupta.

For us at VidyaValley he was the one who gave us our name. “Call the school Vidya Valley“, he said. And it was perfect. It could not have been better. Through his sightless eyes he saw the place in perfect color – verdant green surrounded by undulating hills on three sides. In his vision he saw the perfect school.

In distant Siliguri he set up the PreranaSchool for very severely handicapped children. He was also the pillar of the North Bengal Council for the Disabled which he founded in 1990. He strove to make all these institutions perfect, just as he had always tried to do with his own life.

Today, 31st Aug 2013, he breathed his last. A fortnight would have made it 48 years to the day when his tank was hit in the 1965 War and he was nearly killed.

Jojo breathed his last after a ten month battle with cancer. It was a hard battle and ugly to see. Till the end his mind remained sharp and alert. We are certain that he is watching over us. We will have to strive for perfection because Jojo will not accept anything else.

Jojo schooled at RIMC – the RashtriyaIndianMilitaryCollege at Dehradun. He excelled in everything – on the playing fields and in the class-rooms. Very specially in swimming. As a young school boy he became a legend.

It was inevitable that he would join the NDA. Of course he excelled and walked away with the Gold Medal of the 22nd course in Dec 1962. On to the IMA at Dehradun. Once again Jojo walked away with the top award.. Already at 21 years Jojo was a rarity. A soldier with intelligence, spirit and ability is born rarely. But more was to come.

Jojo opted to join the 16th Light Cavalry at Ahmednagar. It is the oldest armored regiment of the Indian Army. As a young officer on the Tank Course, he received the Silver Centurion award.

Everyone believed that he was destined to be one of the great Generals of the Army. But fate had other plans. In the 1965 war he lost both eyes. He was just 22 – strong, vibrant and brilliant. For anyone else that would have been the end but for Jojo it was a new beginning.

After four years in hospitals he was back as a civilian – ready to battle life. He proved, once a soldier always a soldier despite the unexpected turn of destiny. He knew that the bigger ‘Battle of Life’ can still be won!

Jojo’s perfect record, his humility and wit, his genuine kindness to everybody, made all who met him his deep admirers. He never lost a friend or made an enemy. No one can quite explain what made him attract most everybody. Probably it was his unsullied and abiding genuineness.

I could go on and on about Jojo.
But let me just say that Capt Jayanta Kumar Sengupta had profound visual impairment resulting in hundred percent disability due to a direct hit on his tank in Sep 1965 n the Indo Pak War. Thus for 48 years out of his life span of 70, he was wholly blind.

A Personal Tribute – from a Rimcollian, a few years his senior and wounded nearby,  who stayed for near nine months in the same hospital and whom Jojo later accompanied when he bought a Standard Herald from Madras and drove to Bangalore, Secunderabad, Ahmednagar, Pune, Bombay, Delhi and then for whose marriage in a dusty, decrepit Punjab village he came to from Calcutta – will follow.

Meanwhile consider. Jojo’s daughter’s husband – an Army Major who stepped over an IED in a counter insurgency operation and lost the vision of both eyes. Can life be more cruel???

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Become a Travel Warrior – Five Tips …

Posted on May 10, 2013. Filed under: Guide Posts, Personal Stuff, Searching for Success |

RULE @ 1 – UPGRADE EVERY THING – Status is more important than miles.

There are alternatives to flying on the same company 50 times a year to get to a certain status level that, trust me, will make your life a lot easier. Some credit cards, like American Express, give you access to lounges, even if you fly economy, and other advantages. So select one that provides those nice features, and use them.

Make sure to aggregate your Mileage and Rewards programs by alliance. Sign up to all of them. Also, sign up to all car rental loyalty programs. It takes a bit of time, but it’s totally worth it.

Store all your frequent flyer, and loyalty program numbers somewhere easily accessible. I use Evernote for that, and for many other things.

Once you’ve set up memberships to the appropriate programs, you can upgrade your status, get hotel discounts, and deals that are worth it if you travel a lot.

My favorite subscription service for this is Founders Card (use this link for 30% off). It enables you to upgrade your status tier on a bunch of airlines, car rental companies, and some hotel chains.

If you travel a lot, breezing through security is almost a necessity these days. Sign up for CLEAR (discount from Founders Card if you become a member), it’s now available in most airports, and it can save you as much as 20 minutes on a busy day.

If you travel in and out of the US, Global Entry is an absolute must. It’s a pain to sign up for, but it can save you hours clearing immigrations after you land Stateside. And added bonus, you don’t have to fill in the customs form every single time.

RULE # 2 GET THE RIGHT APPS n TOOLS 

Having the right information available when you need it – ahead of other passengers can be really helpful, but more importantly it decreases your overall stress level. And lower stress levels mean less fatigue, and less jet lag side effects.

An absolute must-have is Tripit. Tripit will store all details of your trips, and update them with real time information on flight delays, driving directions to your hotel, weather conditions, and a lot more. But more importantly, it enables you to have one place where all your travel data is, and makes it accessible and updated from any of your devices. Getting data into Tripit is as easy as forwarding your booking confirmation via email to plans@tripit.com. Once your trips are loaded, I strongly advise adding the Tripit iCal feed to all your devices’ calendars. No more manual calendar entry of all your trip details! Also add the iOS or Android app on your devices.

Want to get rid of the awful experience of showing up to the airport only to learn your flight has been delayed by two hours? Generally this happens when you’re late for the original departure time, and you rush like crazy to the airport only to be frustrated like there is no tomorrow. The app I use for that is FlightTrack. Good news is that it syncs with your Tripit data, so no need to input anything manually. It uses push notifications to inform you of any flight delays, gate number update, and arrival time based on near real time data provided by various airlines and airports systems. This is must have too.

Getting to and from the airport, and around in most cities where you don’t go for a car rental can be a painful experience. Plus for cabs you have to get cash in foreign currency and manage the hassle of receipts. To get rid of all of these issues, I use Uber a lot, available inmost cities now, and you get the added benefit of riding in style with only a slight price premium.

Use Evernote, snap a photo of your passport, and other ID cards so you have them handy with all your frequent flyer numbers, and other loyalty and status programs.

Make sure to install the app from the airline you’re about to fly with, and when available check-in from that app and use a mobile boarding pass instead of the paper version.

Finally, install the app from your mobile carrier on your phone, and buy an international data and voice plan before departure to avoid horrendous roaming charges.

Ok. So now you’re setup with all relevant programs, you’ve upgraded status where available, and you have all the tools you need on every single device. Let’s book that first trip!

RULE # 3 BOOK LIKE A TRAVEL WIZ 

Some of my friends and colleagues don’t pay attention to airline or hotel reservations, and blindly always book through the same airline because of the single mileage program they have decent status on. I find this truly bizarre. Why would people make an additional 2+ hours layover on an intercontinental flight, add 5 or 6 hours total travel time, and fly in planes that are forty years old just because they want to rack more points on their loyalty program. Completely irrational. Especially if you follow the tips above, and you now have a lot more airlines you can fly on with decent status.

Never rely blindly on a travel agency to book your trip. If you have to use one, do your own research on price, flight times, lowest number of connections, and more. I use both Kayak, and Hipmunk for this. Hipmunk has a neat sorting feature that let’s you sort various options by “agony” level. Seat selection is also key, look for your flight number on SeatGuru to ensure you get the best seat.

When you book a flight for business, try to at least keep a few hours of free time in your schedule if possible. Life is short, and if work takes you to great cities, take the time to discover them a bit. Even a good hour walk in a city is a great way to get a feel for history and culture.

About Hotels, most people choose chains they’re familiar with, like Hilton, Hyatt, or Marriott. While some of these hotels can be really nice, you can miss an opportunity to discover hidden gems that will make your trip so much more pleasant. I like using Gogobot as it allows you to see recommendations made by people you know and trust, and who are more likely to have similar tastes as you.

Also, if you’re a foodie, you’ll find good restaurant recommendations for that business dinner or to unwind at after a busy day.

RULE # 4 PACK LIKE A PRO 

Cheap baggage does not survive a year, so you don’t end up saving in the long run. I really like Tumi for sturdiness and convenience. Use an international carry-on sized luggage, so you never have to check-in your bag.

NEVER check your bag! Put liquids and others in ziploc bags, and store them in external compartments so they’re easily accessible. If you pack a suit, and shirts, check out a video that shows you how to pack them to ensure you won’t have to iron them when you get to your hotel.

If you skip that step and your shirts are wrinkled when you reach your destination, unfold and hang all of them on hangers. Hang it in your hotel room’s bathroom and turn on all hot water faucets, close the door, and let the steam do it’s un-wrinkling magic (remember to open all sink/bath/shower drains —       Yes… it happened to me, and it wasn’t pretty :)).

Electronics: I travel with a MacBook Pro (will switch to an Air when Apple releases one with a retina display), an iPad, an iPhone, and an Android smartphone (remember, I’m a geek…).

But I also pack a Kensington international plug adapter, a Mophie juice pack, a PoweRocks external battery, a Verizon LTE MiFi Jetpack, a 10W iXCC dual charger, and Eastern Collective cables (they’re pricy at $20 a pop, but since I hate cables, these make me feel better about carrying so many of them), and a Parrot Zik noise canceling headset (the best by far). Always charge up your devices the day before your flight.

RULE # 5  OWN JET LAG 

If you’re going somewhere with more than 3 hours time difference, try these tips to beat the effects of jet lag:

  • Before takeoff, set your watch to the destination time zone. Try to mentally project yourself to that time from that point on.
  • If you’re flying East, and you’re on a 10+ hours flight, try to avoid sleeping more than 3-4 hours on the plane, this will enable you to get a better first night’s sleep your at destination.
  • Avoid sleeping pills. You’re better off not sleeping at all on that flight.
  • Drink plenty of water. I mean, PLENTY of water. Whatever you’re drinking, it’s not enough. You need to keep yourself hydrated as altitude, and the dry air of the pressurized cabin dehydrate you fast.
  • Avoid the booze. One or two glasses of wine are ok, but avoid hard liquor at all cost.
  • Eat moderately, and pick the healthy options if available (avoid bread and processed foods if you can tolerate it). Focus on the nice dinner you’ll have later in the day at your destination.
  • Pick an in-flight movie that’s entertaining, but not one you’d feel bad if you miss the end of it by falling asleep.
  • When you get to your hotel, no matter what time! if it’s mid-afternoon or morning, jump in the shower (not the bath).
  • On the first few nights, I always take a dose of ZzzQuil (any Diphenhydramine light sleep aid will do) it used to be used as an antihistamine, so it’s not habit forming, and it doesn’t knock you out like real sleeping pills such as Ambien, and one of Melatonin 5mg.
  • Every morning, take a multivitamin. Most are completely inefficient, and never dissolve in your stomach — a good way to test the quality of your multivitamin brand is to drop one in a glass with a bit of vinegar in it. If it stays like a rock a few minutes in, switch to another brand. Good ones should dissolve fairly quickly. Gel caps always do.
  • Exercise every morning. Go for a run outside and discover the city you’re staying in, hit the gym, of if you really don’t have time, complete a 4 or 8 minute Tabata high intensity interval (HIIT) training in your room. This will boost your metabolism, and kick you into the right time zone much faster.
  • If you’re staying for more than a few days, eliminate the ZzzQuil or similar after night 2 or 3, but keep on taking Melatonin.
  • When you get back to your hotel room, avoid staying up until 2am doing emails (ok … I must confess I’m still working on that one).

On your flight home, assuming you’re flying West, repeat the above, and when you get home, avoid taking a nap or going to bed before 9:30-10pm. Fight the urge to sleep.

Use Zzzquil and Melatonin for 2-3 days if that works for you, exercise every morning, and you’ll be fine.

Also don’t forget to stop your international data and voice plan through the mobile app of your wireless carrier. Most prorate the plans, so it’s a relatively cheap thing to do.

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Marriage Vows – Dussehra Day, Oct 24, 2012 …

Posted on January 10, 2013. Filed under: Personal Stuff |

Please join hands and face each other.

We are gathered here today to witness the marriage of R and R and to celebrate the new chapter in their lives.

Marriage is a promise that is made m in the hearts of two persons who truly love and respect each other. It is a pledge be loving friends partners, to appreciate and cherish one another’s uniqueness and to help one another through life’s ups and downs.

Marriage is commended to us to be honorable among all persons and it should not be entered into lightly but rather with reverence for its responsibilities. Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be nurtured.

In marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say I love you. It is never taking each other for granted. It is speaking words of appreciation and showing gratitude in thought ful ways. It is never going to bed angry but having the ability to forgive and forget.

It is not marrying the right partner but rather being the right partner.

R do you take R to be your lawful wedded marriage partner? Do you promise to love R and comfort, honor and keep R, in sickness and health richer or poorer, in good times and bad, for all the days of your lives?

R and R, today you have made the commitment to each other which has been symbolized by the joining of hands and the exchanging of vows. May you continue to love each other for ever as husband and wife and remmembering to be each others best friend.

BY VIRTUE OF THE AUTHORITY VESTED IN ME AS DEPUTY COMMISIONER OF CIVIL MARRIAGES, and in the presence of these witnesses, I pronunce you as husband and wife.

You may now kiss your bride”!

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That Self Confidence Thing …

Posted on September 23, 2011. Filed under: Guide Posts, Personal Magnetism, Personal Stuff, Personalities, Searching for Success |

Wonderful discussing this Self Confidence thing over the phone in the middle of the night.

Set me thinking.

Most have it for no justifiable reason. Others, with all reasons for having it, remain plagued with Self Doubt. With an over powering desire to be passengers.

Then there are the run silent run deep types. They maintain a low profile but come out, when needed,  swinging. Others of this ilk, silently deliver the coup d’ grace!

From long experience as a passenger, allow me to say a thing or two.

This guy here has just about Every Thing. He has brains, knowledge, temperament and  self deprecating humor. Also presence and looks to boot! Most importantly he is, in his quiet way, a kind person.

But deeply ingrained is this Self Doubt.

Reminds me of Group Captain Leonard Cheshire, a double VC, who seeing the ‘A’ Bomb on Hiroshima – as Churchills representative – resigned from the Air Force and went on to found the Cheshire Homes, one of which is in Dehra Dun.

The guy was so innately modest that he at one time, geniunely did not know that he had  WAAF Driver – till she reminded him that she had to go for lunch even if he did not!

To return. Usually the back bencher types have more confidence than the showy variety. When their back is to the wall they come out, guns blazing and hold center stage, before retiring with the emergency attended, to their chosen low profile position.

This here guy is hardly shy. Rather, being sharp and a good judge of people, he is acclaimed as a bit of a consular in matters of heart and head.

So where in hell is the Achilles heel?

Maybe the guy’s backside is not on fire. Without that no one can go anywhere. So choose your poison and GO! There is just no other way.

As for me what gets me going is simply cursing, just about every little or big thing, long and hard. Leaves one with lots of balance and dash. Note that dear old George S Patton could go on cursing for over two minutes w/o any repetition!

More seriously what works for most persons is, funnily, Posture and Bearing. Believe me when I say, if one consciously maintains posture and bears oneself right, the confidence thing comes striding in.

At rock bottom, posture and bearing mean just two  things.

First is  the way the head is carried.  It should be held straight up. The trick is to consciously maintain one’s ear lobes over ones shoulders. This gets the head in the right place. The result is the king of the world, monarch of all one surveys feeling.

The other thing which gives courage, strength, power is a simple  habit. The diaphragm is the flat muscle above the abdomen. This must always be maintained in the lowered position.

This muscle rises and falls as one breathes. It can be maintained raised or lowered while breathing. Keeping it raised results in weakness. In rapt attention, surprise, shock and in death it is in the raised position.

One can breathe deep and hard with the diaphragm in the raised or lowered position. Breathing with it raised results in physical and mental weakness. . Breathing with it kept lowered, results in strength – mental and physical.

The proof is in the pudding. If  you make this a habit, you can have the cake and eat it too.

Bon Voyage!

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On Starting Your Venture …

Posted on August 16, 2011. Filed under: Business, Personal Stuff |

At this stage in life it is fascinating to come across bright and talented yet unhappy, dissatisfied young men and women. Most are unhappy where they are regardless how well they maybe doing financially and materially. Some want to change professions while others are passionate about doing their own thing.

Some have listened and made a go of it. Happy at their success and achievement, here are the Five things guaranteed to take you places. The self styled Guru’s may mock but the proof of the pudding is in the eating.

First  – Confidence and Courage

Whether you want to change your profession or start doing your own stuff, the first thing that is needed is a whole lot of confidence bonded with stark stubborn raw courage.

This is the one thing that will help you pass times when you fail, feel rock bottom hopeless and miserable. Such times may last days, weeks, months and they occur ever so often too. Such periods always seem pathetically long and unending. You will feel lonely and terribly alone.

What matters and is needed is confidence in yourself and what you are doing. The steely resolve within is the only thing that can pull you through. People, even the nearest and dearest will laugh, mock, deride. There will be many a, “I  told you so”.

It is human nature. The world enjoys the frustrations and travails of those in the pit.

Deep down you need to analyze the bad decisions. This could be on a daily basis specially before retiring. Always but always you and you alone have to know where you are at the moment and in which direction you are headed.

The beauty is that many a time you may have to move in reverse gear. But you must always be in the know of just about everything gong on. They say knowledge is power. It helps build confidence too.

Second – Knowing your Stuff

What ever your dream, you have to know and learn all of its nitty gritty. This applies to the big Picture as well as the detail; the macro as well as the minutiae.  You gotta know stuff which is not known to even the experts.

If you do not know this then you have no biz being here and had better go back to where you came from.

Always start with the basics. You need to make the others in the field look stupid. This is the one thing that will take you places.

Third – Doing Stuff and Moving. Moving, moving all the time

Once you have rock hard confidence meshed with the secret nitty gritty of your field, then its time to be doing things instead of sitting on your behind dreaming. Remember movement is life; stillness is death.

Move, move and keep doing stuff here there and just about everywhere. There is just no time for play and you can not afford the pleasure of sitting back and enjoying the scenery. Otherwise mighty unpleasant things will most certainly happen.

You gotta keep the positives or what is needed, happening every day, every minute, all the time – 24×7 .

Fourth – Have Fun

Now whether you are making ground or are mired every once in a while you need to look from the outside and have a good laugh at your antics. This will help you know that though you maybe making a monkey out of yourself yet you are enjoying the roller coaster.

You will learn not to take anything too seriously. Somebody wrote that when Thomas Edison’s work shop went up in flames, he called just about every one to come enjoy the once in a lifetime bonfire!

Every once in a while laugh at your self and try see the ludicrous in the serious.

Fifth –  Bigheartedness and Generosity

Small hearted folk seldom achieve much. Good to be generous to those helping you and even those fighting you. Nothing to lose.

Being big will help you laugh at yourself and give confidence every which way. And help make good friends too.

Good Luck, God Bless.  Enjoy Life in Every which Way. 

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Rommel – A Tribute …

Posted on June 10, 2011. Filed under: Personal Stuff, Personalities |

Rommel

Born Mar 5, 1998. Went to His Maker Jun 3, 2011. 

His Life was Gentle and the Elements so Mixed in Him that Nature might Stand and Say to all the World –

‘Here was Gentleness laced with Strength,

Beauty without Vanity; Grace and Elegance aplenty.

And, above all –  a Heart of Gold!’

Rommel

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A Prayer and a Regret …

Posted on June 9, 2011. Filed under: Personal Stuff, Personalities |

“Well, as you can imagine, its been a little crappy over here. Our Dear Rommel’s presence is very much missed’.

‘I hope he is OK, where ever He Is ! … Simply put – He Was My Friend.’

‘There’s one thing I regret though — I wish I had spent more time with him.”

It was a cold cold winter - Rommel around Xmas '09

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Just Rommel …

Posted on June 7, 2011. Filed under: Personal Stuff, Personalities, Uncategorized |

This is Rommel as he plays by himself. Just look at those fangs!

And read how safely he used to take Parle’ Gs from the two year old Suhana and Sanjum …

Hi Folks,

We are all very very sad that Rommel has left us.

We are not used to the house without him. We have never closed the door to the garage and the front door area.  The backyard feels empty without him .

I always felt safe and secure with him present. He was so very wise and comforting.

Rommel enjoyed Suhana and Sanjum petting him and giving him Parle – G. He always followed me when I came home with Prasad from the Gurdwara. As you know he loved ‘prasad’ and you used to ask me to make it for him.

I remember going hiking with him. Whenever I got tired, I held his leash and he was pretty good at pulling me up the hill. He was so very strong and lion like.

Reiya used to take him out when she used to cone back from School and he used to get very excited to see her.

Suhana, Sanjum, Reiya and I loved seeing him rolling on the grass in the front lawn. He was such a joy.

He was perfectly fine on Friday, very active and happy to be running around the 4Runner when Shaina and I got home from the Library. He passed away so fast and sudden that he has left us all in total shock.

Reiya is not doing so good. I catch her crying many a time. Shaina and family are here at present but when they leave, it’s going to hit us even more.

I hope you both are taking care of yourselves. Please remember that Rommel will always be in our thoughts and prayers and will always remain a part of us.

May God make his Soul rest in Peace.
R.

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