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Hundred Year Old Rules of Culture and Good Breeding …

Posted on October 25, 2011. Filed under: Books, Great Writing, Guide Posts, Indian Thought, Light plus Weighty, Personalities |

Here’s a list of Rules of Culture and Good Breeding written some hundreds of years ago.

Even in these times when the young have NO Time for stuff like culture and good breeding, these qualities are the difference between the Classy and the Crude. The discerning will always recognize and value such stuff. Here is a sharp but long list of what makes the difference between the Boorish and the Classy – between the civilized and the uncivilized.

  • Never exaggerate.
  • Never point at another.
  • Never betray a confidence.
  • Never leave home with unkind words.
  • Never neglect to call upon your friends.
  • Never laugh at the misfortunes of others.
  • Never give a promise that you do not fulfill.
  • Never send a present, hoping for one in return.
  • Never speak much of your own performances.
  • Never fail to be punctual at the time appointed.
  • Never make yourself the hero of your own story.
  • Never pick the teeth or clean the nails in company.
  • Never fail to give a polite answer to a civil question.
  • Never question a child about family matters.
  • Never present a gift saying that it is of no use to yourself.
  • Never read letters which you may find addressed to others.
  • Never fail, if a gentleman, of being civil and polite to ladies.
  • Never call attention to the features or form of anyone present.
  • Never refer to a gift you have made, or favor you have rendered.
  • Never associate with bad company. Have good company, or none.
  • Never look over the shoulder of another who is reading or writing.
  • Never appear to notice a scar, deformity, or defect of anyone present.
  • Never arrest the attention of an acquaintance by touch. Speak to him.
  • Never punish your child for a fault to which you are addicted yourself.
  • Never answer questions in general company that have been put to others.
  • Never, when traveling abroad, be over boastful in praise of your own country.
  • Never call a new acquaintance by their first name unless requested.
  • Never lend an article you have borrowed, unless you have permission to do so.
  • Never attempt to draw the attention of the company constantly upon yourself.
  • Never exhibit anger, impatience or excitement, when an accident happens.
  • Never pass between two persons who are talking together, without an apology.
  • Never enter a room noisily; never fail to close the door after you, and never slam it.
  • Never forget that, if you are faithful in a few things, you may be ruler over many.
  • Never exhibit too great familiarity with the new acquaintance, you may give offense.
  • Never will a gentleman allude to conquests which he may have made with ladies.
  • Never be guilty of the contemptible meanness of opening a private letter addressed to another.
  • Never fail to offer the easiest and best seat in the room to an invalid, an elderly person, or a lady.
  • Never neglect to perform the commission which the friend entrusted to you. You must not forget.
  • Never send your guest, who is accustomed to a warm room, off into a cold, damp, spare bed, to sleep.
  • Never enter a room filled with people, without a slight bow to the general company when first entering.
  • Never fail to answer an invitation, either personally or by letter, within a week after the invitation is received.
  • Never accept of favors and hospitality without rendering an exchange of civilities when opportunity offers.
  • Never cross the leg and put one foot in the street-car, or places where it will trouble others when passing by.
  • Never fail to tell the truth. If truthful, you get your reward. You will get your punishment if you deceive.
  • Never borrow money and neglect to pay. If you do, you will soon be known as a person of no business integrity.
  • Never write to another asking for information, or a favor of any kind, without enclosing a postage stamp for the reply.
  • Never fail to say kind and encouraging words to those whom you meet in distress. Your kindness may lift them out of their despair.
  • Never refuse to receive an apology. You may not receive friendship, but courtesy will require, when a apology is offered, that you accept it.
  • Never examine the cards in the card-basket. While they may be exposed in the drawing room, you are not expected to turn them over unless invited to do so.
  • Never, when walking arm in arm with a lady, be continually changing and going to the other side, because of change of corners. It shows too much attention to form.
  • Never insult another with harsh words when applied to for a favor. Kind words do not cost much, and yet they may carry untold happiness to the one to whom they are spoken.
  • Never fail to speak kindly. If a merchant, and you address your clerk; if an overseer, and you address your workman; if in any position where you exercise authority, you show yourself to be a gentleman by your pleasant mode of address.
  • Never attempt to convey the impression that you are a genius, by imitating the faults of distinguished men. Because certain great men were poor penmen, wore long hair, or had other peculiarities, it does not follow that you will be great by imitating their eccentricities.
  • Never give all your pleasant words and smile to strangers. The kindest words and the sweetest smiles should be reserved for home. Home should be our heaven.

Here’s to a Happy Life!

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Steve Jobs Dies at 56 …

Posted on October 5, 2011. Filed under: American Thinkers, Business, Personalities |

Steve Jobs, who worked for a One Dollar salary, with his wealth coming from his stock, is reported to have once said that he would give his entire wealth for an hour with Socrates.

He had founded his first Company at age 21. Later before he became an icon, was hounded by Bill Gates who also screwed NetsCape.

Steve Jobs suffered from cancer since ’04 or earlier. He died today at age 56.

Jobs had an ultra aggressive and demanding personality. He was considered a leading Silicon Valley Ego Maniac and figured in Fortune’s list of America’s Toughest Bosses.

His Co Founder said that with him, “The highs were unbelievable. And the lows were unimaginable.”

He admired the Beatles and said –

“My model for business is The Beatles: “They were four guys that kept each other’s negative tendencies in check. They balanced each other. And the total was greater than the sum of the parts. Great things in business are not done by one person -they are done by a team of people.”

His favorite quote –

“I skate to where the puck is going to be, not where it has been. We’ve always tried to do that at Apple – since the very very beginning. And we always will.”

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1971 Indo Pak War – Sabuna Drain Battle …

Posted on October 3, 2011. Filed under: From a Services Career |

In the 1971 War despite Sam Manekshaw, in the West Pak fared rather better than the india. This is the Story of a Company level action by Pakistan which stymied the entire Western Command. Speaks volumes for luck and leadership.

In the West there was, broadly speaking, a holding action by the Indian Army even though for the second time in six years, Chamb once again fell to the onslaught of the Pakistani armor. This had happened at the start of the 1965 War also.
Other wise there were mere skirmishes with the likes of Gen Onkar Kalkat, a Gurkha officer close to Sam, launching his ancient AMX 13 tanks against a small border post. The post was taken even though all the tanks broke down much before they could reach the objective. And both sides suffered a casualty each.

Sam came to visit the First Armored Division, the Indian Army’s pride, as it lay spreadeagled in combat teams across canal bridges. All officers were seated on the ground to hear Sam who landed by Chopper. Before the Chief could begin his address the Chopper took off, covering him and us with thick dust. This led him to begin his address by saying, “When ever I plan something, I can always depend upon the Air Force and the Armored Corps to Fuck it Up!”
The First Armored Division under Butch, who had risen from a Despatch Rider to GOC (and ended up as Northern Army Commander), was deployed in penny packets in a funny defensive mode. For instance there was this Sqn of 68 Armored Regt under Banbir along with a Topaz APC Coy of First Garhwalis under me,drawn in a half circle across the canal West of Muktsar. This was supposed to be a defensive layout to prevent enemy armor reaching the canal as well as a potential bridge head for own reserve armor to be launched across the canal.
There were similar teams deployed all over, meaning armor was deployed piecemeal and not kept concentrated – much against all accepted armor wisdom. Maybe most of all because we had zilch information on enemy armor locations or intentions! Maybe because the name Tikka Khan, who had come to the West after his reign of gruesome terror in East Bengal. was enough to cause paralysis!

Any way this gave me plenty of opportunity to go around here, there and every where and see things for myself. Indeed it was this that gave me a ring side seat to see the AMX 13 tanks breaking down and the odd one just reaching the objective during  one of Gen Onkar Kalkat’s theatrics.

Among other places, I was also able to see the area of the Sabuna Drain where a true Beauty of a Battle was about to take place. This drain lies forward of Fazilka on the Jalalabad route. Indeed it is more of a canal on the Own Bank of which the Indian Army engineers had built pill boxes and fortifications to thwart any threat to Fazilka.

This was under the newly formed 16 Division whose G-1 was Col K Mahindra Singh of my Regiment and the Commander Arty was the colorful and solidly professional bachelor Brig Reen, who had again risen, courtesy Gen Jogi Dhillon, after coming down from Col to Major due to a woman incident in a bar in the US where he had gone for a course. The GOC was Gen Ram Singh a true blue pro of Madras Regt who had the G-1 19 Div when we were in Trehgam in 1963. I think he was wounded and evacuated.

When I visited this area, in the last days of Nov, there were no troops that I could see and precious little defensive activity forward or for that matter rear of the drain but crates and crates of mines, wire and other  defense stores lying all over on both sides of the road going towards the IB. I could see very few troops and no preparation what so ever and wondered what in hell was going on? Any way it was none of my business but it left me feeling uncomfortable.

My misgivings were proved correct. Because as is the norm the enemy never does announce that it is starting hostilities. So on Dec 3 along with large groups of civilians flooding backward and which helped conceal the two infantry columns of a Frontier Force Battalion coming in file towards the Sabuna Drain.

The column on the Right of the Road, as seen from our side, reached the Sabuna Drain and finding the defensive fortifications unoccupied, promptly occupied them and made openings for weapons to fire towards the Rear ie Fazilka. The commander of this company column was a venturesome Captain who promptly began advancing towards the road bridge where was supposed to be located the unit HQ.

In those days, units had one Light Machine Gun per Section and the 37th one was with the Battalion HQ. These guys of the unit HQ had heard firing towards their Right on the Canal itself and as they saw the enemy coming towards them from that direction, this LMG promptly opened fire.

Thinking that perhaps there was major opposition the Pak Company halted and began to improve the defenses they had found unoccupied. On the Right of the road, as seen from our side, the Pakistan infantry tasted genuine success. Left of the road however the  enemy column got lost and did not even reach the Canal.

As information percolated back that own defenses had been captured unoccupied, the Division sent in some Sherman Tanks of the Independent Armor Sqn, which happened to be Muslim, commanded by my Course and School mate, Hasmukh Patel. As any idiot knows, tanks w/o night devices, moving tentatively at night against prepared defenses, are sitting ducks. The Pakistanis shot up three tanks and the others came crawling back. Sad to say some SOB even questioned the loyalty of the crews!

The defenses on the Left of the road were strengthened and a Missile Squadron from Colonel Diwan’s Missile Battalion brought in to tackle the enemy tanks which were laying off and giving protection to their troops on the Drain. An alert Pak tank gunner spotted Col Diwan going into a bunker and his direct shot ended the gallant Col’s life.I knew him personally as we had been in the same HQ just a year ago.

16 Division with all of Brig Reen’s gunner genius bringing down the whole of the Corps Artillery and more on our own captured defenses, yet not a dent was made. Our Engrs became more proud of their work. And it showed that our Artillery had not learnt much from the Pak Arty in the 65 War.

Even a few battalion attacks failed to make a dent and so much as capture a single trench or any  part of the bund. In fact one attack completely lost direction. The final attack was aborted just before the surrender in Dacca ended the War.

Later, after the war, I again visited the area out of curiosity as I wanted to know how the attacks had been launched and how things could have been done. Doing something similar was Brig Risal Singh, Raj Rif, in the Sabuna Drain area and I found that he too was investigating as to how the attacks had been launched and what had gone wrong.

He thought his being a Rajasthani and a Jat would draw out more facts from the men but he had been unable to glean any thing – probably because those he must have talked to were as lost as any one is in battle..

Maybe plum Bad Leadership on our side. And solid sound leadership on the side of Pakistan. Indeed their Captain was awarded their highest gallantry award – which he surely richly deserved.

We end as we began – with Sam. Because when Sam Manekshaw went to the Drain and congratulated the company Commander, he was told that he should be proud of his old Frontier Force Battalion because it was this Battalion which had brought his Indian Army to a standstill!  Such is the stuff of Soldiers and Soldiering!

Please also see

Pic of some of the Pak Officers who fought the Battle


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Only YOU Count – in Love, War and just about Every Thing

Posted on October 2, 2011. Filed under: Guide Posts, Personal Magnetism, Personalities, Searching for Success |

This is another post intended for the aspiring and those wanting to make a mark in the rough and tumble of life – both private and professional. 

Man or Woman, young or old, indeed who ever and what ever – most every one would give their right arm to have a great aura.

Well here are Three Rules and Four Tips – all guaranteed to give you genuine, deep and abiding ‘Presence’.

The Rules –

1. Always (but always) observe yourself and omit all faults of person.

2. Drive out every vestige of physical, mental and nervous restlessness.

3. Check all involuntary exhibition of feeling. Remember that faces which picture ones inner moods and passions, are weak. As the guy said, one should not wear ones heart on one’s sleeve.

Now the Four Tips.

1. Keep the mouth closed, teeth touching. Never open the mouth except to speak or eat!

2. Never speak unless you have something to say. Then speak purposefully.

3. Avoid touching a person or things.

4. Never look into a persons eyes unless you are speaking or mentally saying something to that person. When being addressed look towards that person but avoid looking into the person’s eyes.

Just follow these Simple Rules and Tips and see what you become to your associates and most importantly – to Yourself!

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