Archive for February, 2007

The Bhullars …

Posted on February 20, 2007. Filed under: Searching for Success |

OK – So in the 17th Century during the Guru HarGobind Era, the Bhullars were Rulers n Masters with their HQs in a small nondescrepit village – Marhi, near Mehraj from where the Patiala Household Originates – also curtesy the Same Guru. The area is near Rampura Phul on Bhatinda – Patiala RHighway.

Around then the hapless Sidhus tormented and driven from Sind reached the area and sought to settle down but the haughty Bhullars were not so inclined and harrassed and humil

The Lazy Speaker writes down what he has to say and reads it out.

The Lazier one jots down a few points and hopes to find words to amplify them.

The Laziest one comes without any preparation, without any thinking, hoping that words and ideas will come to him when he is in front of the audience. The result – oh’s, ah’s, ahem’s and petrification!!!

Perhaps the Greatest Speaker, who spoke thus was Moses; in his case God put the Words in his mouth.

The seemingly ‘extempore’ outpourings of the Churchills and Lincolns of the world, have been carefully crafted, rehearsed and dropped in ‘cavalier’, ‘off handed’ manner.

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‘IF’ – Rudyard Kipling …

Posted on February 19, 2007. Filed under: Guide Posts, Quotes, The English |

If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you. If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you; but make allowance for their doubting too.

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, or being lied about, don’t deal in lies. Or being hated, don’t give way to hating; and yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream– and not make dreams your master; if you can think and not make thoughts your aim. If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster, and treat those two impostors just the same.

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, and stoop and build ’em up with worn out tools.

If you can make one heap of all your winnings and risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss. And lose, and start again at your beginnings and never breath a word about your loss.

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew to serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”:

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, or walk with kings, nor lose the common touch.  If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you. If all men count with you, but none too much.

If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds’ worth of distance run — Yours is the Earth and everything that’s on it!

And — which is more — you’ll be a Man, My Son!

Joseph Rudyard Kipling was an uthor and poet, born in Bombay. Popular writer in both prose and verse warded the Nobel Prize in Literature. Later in life, he came to be seen (in George Orwell’s words) as a “prophet of British imperialism.”

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The Good Book on Women …

Posted on February 14, 2007. Filed under: Mars & Venus, The Good Book |

A gracious woman gets honor; but like a gold ring in a swine’s snout is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion.

Do not be ensnared by a woman’s beauty and do not desire a woman for her possessions.

There is wrath and impudence and great disgrace when a wife supports a husband.

Any wound, but not a wound of the heart. Any wickedness, but not the wickedness of a wife.

Be ashamed of gazing at another man’s wife. Do not desire her beauty in your heart and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes.

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Random Quotes II …

Posted on February 12, 2007. Filed under: Quotes |

A Choice to — Lead, Follow or Get Out of the Way!


Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness.

Our vices will abate of themselves if they be brought every day to the shrift.
We should every night call ourselves to an account: what infirmity have I mastered to-day? what passions opposed? what temptation resisted? what virtue acquired?                            

We can be thankful to a friend for a few acres, or a little money;  and yet for the freedom and command of the whole earth,  and for the great benefits of our being, our life, health, and reason, we look upon ourselves as under no obligation.

There is none made so great, but he may both need the help and service, and stand in fear of the power and unkindness, even of the meanest of mortals.

 There is nothing in the world so much admired as a man who knows how to bear unhappiness with courage.

 What difference does it make how much you have? What you do not have amounts to much more. Poverty wants some, luxury many, and avarice all things.                                                                                                      

There is a noble manner of being poor, and who does not know it, will never be rich.
There is as much greatness of mind in acknowledging a good turn, as in doing it. There is no delight in owning anything not shared.

The greatest remedy for anger is delay. When I think over what I have said, I envy dumb people.

We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than in reality. The man who suffers before it is necessary, suffers more than is necessary. We become wiser by adversity; prosperity destroys our appreciation of the right.                     

Life’s like a play. It’s not the length, but the excellence of the acting that matters. Call it Nature, Fate, Fortune – all these are names of the one and selfsame God. 


Even virtue is fairer when it appears in a beautiful person.                                                       A fickle and capricious woman. The accursed hunger for gold.
But meanwhile time flies; it flies never to be regained.

They can conquer who believe they can. They succeed, because they think they can. Who asks whether the enemy was defeated by stratagem or valor? Happy is he who can trace effects to their causes.

Learn now of the treachery of the Greeks and from one example the character of the nation may be known.

The world cares very little about what a man or woman knows; it is what a man or woman is able to do that counts.  


Who then is free?  The wise man who can govern himself.                                                            A word once uttered can never be recalled.  Anger is a short madness.                    

Always keep your composure; else you can’t score from the penalty box. To win, you have to score.  You traverse the world in search of happiness, which is within the reach of every man. A contented mind confers it on all. on all. Make good use of the present.

 When things are steep, remember to stay level-headed.                                                   Begin, be bold and venture to be wise. Don’t think – just Do.                                              Dare to be wise! Begin. He has half done who begins. 

In bad times we hope and in good times we fear a change in fortune. If matters go badly, it will not always be so.

Your own safety is at stake when your neighbor’s wall is ablaze. Clogged with yesterday’s excess, the body drags the mind down with it. How great, my friends, is the virtue of living upon a little!

Labor diligently to increase your propertyLife grants nothing to us mortals without hard work. Leave the rest to the gods. 

Whatever advice you give, be short. The pen is the tongue of the mind. Words will not fail when the matter is well considered. It is no great art to say something briefly when, like Tacitus, one has something to say.

He gains everyone’s approval who mixes the pleasant with the useful. Mix a little foolishness with your serious plans.  It is lovely to be silly at the right moment.  

What we learn only through the ears makes less impression upon our minds than what is presented to the trustworthy eye.

Good sense is both the first principal and the parent source of good writing. I never think at all when I write. Nobody can do two things at the same time and do them both well.

Strange – is it not? That of the myriads who before us passed the Door of Darkness through; not one returns to tell us of the road, which to discover we must travel too.


No person is important enough to make me angry.                                                       Make yourself an honest man, and then you may be sure there is one less rascal in the world.

Everywhere in life, the true question is not what we gain, but what we do.

He who has health, has hope; and he who has hope, has everything.

Nothing stops the man who desires to achieve……. Every obstacle is simply a course to develop his achievement muscle. It’s a strengthening of his powers of accomplishment No pressure, no diamonds.                                                                                                         Narrative is linear, action has breadth and depth as well as height and is solid.

In books lies the soul of the whole past. All that mankind has done, thought or been: it is lying as in magic preservation in the pages of books.

Humor has justly been regarded as the finest perfection of poetic genius.

Music is well said to be the speech of angels; in fact, nothing among the utterances allowed to man is felt to be so divine. It brings us near to the Infinite.

Talk that does not end in any kind of action is better suppressed altogether.
Silence is more eloquent than words…. It is as deep as eternity, speech is as shallow as time …………….  Speech is human, silence is divine, yet also brutish and dead ………… Therefore we must learn both arts.

Silence is the element in which great things fashion themselves together.
Secrecy is the element of all goodness; even virtue, even beauty is mysterious.

Sarcasm I now seem to believe, in general, the language of the devil; for which reason I have long since as good as renounced it.

Science must have originated in the feeling that something was wrong.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Who is the most sensible person?  The one who finds what is to his own advantage in all that happens to him  If you wish to know the mind of a man, listen to his words.

He who does not think much of himself is much more esteemed than he imagines…               A man’s manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait.

People place themselves on a level with the ones they praise.

To the person with a firm purpose all men and things are servants ..                                Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it…….                                                           Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it….                                                                          

Fresh activity is the only means of overcoming adversity…………..                                           Nature knows no pause in progress and development,                                                                  and attaches her curse on all inaction.

Magic is believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen.                 Man is made by his belief – as he believes, so he is. 

In the realm of ideas everything depends on enthusiasm, in the real world all rests on perseverance.
Many people take no care of their money till they come nearly to the end of it,                         and others do just the same with their time.

One can be instructed in society, one is inspired only in solitude.                                                 A creation of importance can only be produced when its author isolates himself,                        it is a child of solitude.    

All things are only transitory..   All intelligent thoughts have already been thought; what is necessary is only to try to think them again… Letters are among the most significant memorial a person can leave behind them.

If I love you, what does that matter to you! Girls we love for what they are; young men for what they promise to be.

Correction does much, encouragement does more.  Beauty is everywhere a welcome guest.


Manifest plainness, embrace simplicity, reduce selfishness, have few desires.
By letting it go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning.

He who knows that enough is enough, will always have enough.
He who obtains has little. He who scatters has much. The sage does not hoard.

The more he helps others, the more he benefits himself. The more he gives to others, the more he gets himself.  The Way of the sage is to act but not to compete.

The softest things in the world overcome the hardest things in the world.

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.

To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.                                                         Silence is a source of great strength. Of all that is good, sublimity is supreme.

He who knows, does not speak. He, who speaks, does not know.

Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure.

Confidence is the greatest friend. Non-being is the greatest joy.

Succeeding is the coming together of all that is beautiful.

Perseverance is the foundation of all actions.

He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened.                                         To see things in the seed, that is genius.

By letting it go, it all gets done. the world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning. Lao.


When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.

The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts. Your life is what your thoughts make it.

And thou wilt give thyself relief, if thou doest every act of thy life as if it were the last.

Begin – to begin is half the work, let half still remain; again begin this, and thou wilt have finished.

Forward, as occasion offers. Never look round to see whether any shall note it… Be satisfied with success in even the smallest matter.

You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.

Because your own strength is unequal to the task, do not assume that it is beyond the powers of man; but if anything is within the powers and province of man, believe that it is within your own compass also.

When thou art in any measure angry, bethink thee how momentary is man’s life.                 How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.

We ought to do good to others as simply as a horse runs, or a bee makes honey, or a vine bears grapes season after season without thinking of the grapes it has borne.

Adapt yourself to the things among which your lot has been cast and love sincerely the fellow creatures with whom destiny has ordained that you shall live.

 Time is a sort of river of passing events, and strong is its current; no sooner is a thing brought to sight than it is swept by and another takes its place, and this too will be swept away.

There are three classes into which all the women past seventy that ever I knew were to be divided: 1. That dear old soul; 2. That old woman; 3. That old witch.



Jonathan Swift

As blushing will sometimes make a whore pass for a virtuous woman, so modesty may make a fool seem a man of sense.

Books, the children of the brain.

Good manners is the art of making those people easy with whom we converse. Whoever makes the fewest people uneasy is the best bred in the room.

I never knew a man come to greatness or eminence who lay abed late in the morning.

One enemy can do more hurt than ten friends can do good.

Laws are like cobwebs, which may catch small flies, but let wasps and hornets break through.

The best doctors in the world are Doctor Diet, Doctor Quiet, and Doctor Merryman.

Under this window in stormy weather I marry this man and woman together; Let none but Him who rules the thunder Put this man and woman asunder.



George Eliot

Might, could, would – they are contemptible auxiliaries.

Consequences are unpitying.

Our deeds determine us, as much as we determine our deeds.

There are many victories worse than a defeat.


Blessed is the man, who having nothing to say, abstains from giving wordy evidence of the fact.

I like not only to be loved, but to be told I am loved.
I like trying to get pregnant; I’m not so sure about childbirth.

The happiest women, like the happiest nations, have no history.

A difference of taste in jokes is a great strain on the affections.

It is a common enough occurrence, that men suddenly get captivated by women the exact opposite of their ideal.

That’s what a man wants in a wife, mostly; he wants to make sure one fool tells him he’s wise.


Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles.

What loneliness is more lonely than distrust?
Whether happiness may come or not, one should try and prepare one’s self to do without it.
What makes life dreary is the want of a motive.
When death comes it is never our tenderness that we repent, but our severity.

Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them.
Alfred Lord Tennyson

A day may sink or save a realm.
Authority forgets a dying king.

A smile abroad is often a scowl at home.
No man ever got very high by pulling other people down.
Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control; these three alone lead one to sovereign power.

Guard your roving thoughts with a jealous care, for speech is but the dialer of thoughts, and every fool can plainly read in your words what is the hour of your thoughts.
The same words conceal and declare the thoughts of men.

After it, follow it, Follow The Gleam.
How dull it is to pause, to make an end, to rust unburnished, not to shine in use! As though to breathe were life.
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.

Aldous Huxley

My father considered a walk among the mountains as the equivalent of churchgoing.

There’s only one corner of the universe you can improve, and that’s your own self.

The finest works of art are precious because they make it possible for us to know, if only imperfectly and for a little while, what it actually feels like to think subtly and feel nobly.

A man may be a pessimistic determinist before lunch and an optimistic believer in the will’s freedom after it.
After silence, what comes nearest to expressing the inexpressible is music.

Consistency is contrary to nature, contrary to life. The only completely consistent people are dead.

Every man’s memory is his private literature

Experience is not what happens to you; it’s what you do with what happens to you.

An unexciting truth may be eclipsed by a thrilling lie.

Beauty is worse than wine, it intoxicates both the holder and beholder.

An intellectual is a person who’s found one thing that’s more interesting than sex.
Winston Churchill

Solitary trees, if they grow at all, grow strong.


Edmund Burke

Change is the most powerful law of nature.


It is like the seed put in the soil – the more one sows, the greater the harvest.

Abstract Art: A product of the untalented, sold by the unprincipled to the utterly bewildered.


Scipio Africanus

I’m never less at leisure than when at leisure. Or less alone than when alone.

I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.                           It is the part of a fool to say that which I should not have thought.
Ernest Hemingway

Courage is grace under pressure.
 I’m not going to get into the ring with Tolstoy.

Never go on trips with anyone you do not love.  

Never mistake motion for action.

The shortest answer is doing the thing.


Theodore Roosevelt

A man who has never gone to school may steal from a freight car; but if he has a university education, he may steal the whole railroad.
A typical vice of American politics is the avoidance of saying anything real on real issues.

I am only an average man but, by George, I work harder at it than the average man.

Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.
Character, in the long run, is the decisive factor in the life of an individual and of nations alike.
Courtesy is as much a mark of a gentleman as courage.
Speak softly and carry a big stick. Don’t hit at all, if possible – but never hit soft.


John Ruskin

A little thought and a little kindness are often worth more than a great deal of money.

I believe the first test of a truly great man is in his humility.

It is his restraint that is honorable to a person, not their liberty.

It is not how much one makes but to what purpose one spends.
Large fortunes are all founded either on the occupation of land, or lending or the taxation of labor.
Let every dawn be to you as the beginning of life, and every setting sun be to you as its close.

No person who is well bred, kind and modest is ever offensive.

All deficiency is bankruptcy of manners or heart.

Endurance is nobler than strength, and patience than beauty.


Elia Kazan

Hey, you must be doin’ good, ’cause I never hear from you.


Heddy Lamar

All creative people want to do the unexpected.

I know why most people never get rich; they put the money ahead of the job.

If you just think of the job, the money will automatically follow. This never fails.

Compromise and tolerance are magic words. It took me 40 years to become philosophical.

I have not been that wise. Health I have taken for granted.

Love I have demanded, perhaps too much and too often.

As for money, I have only realized its true worth when I didn’t have it.

I would tell anyone who wants something from someone else to feign not wanting it. People are perverse. If you show great affection to them, they’ll run the other way.

I never go to funerals. To me a person is dead when he breathes for the last time. After that, your memories should be personal.

All a woman needs is a good bath, clean clothes, and for her hair to be combed.

These things she can do herself. I very seldom go to the hairdresser, but when I do, I just marvel.

Analysis gave me great freedom of emotions and fantastic confidence. I felt I had served my time as a puppet.

I can excuse everything but boredom. Boring people don’t have to stay that way.

I know when I’m working I seldom get into trouble. My educated guess is that boredom has caused most of the problems with Hollywood celebrities.

Experts always know everything but the fine points. When I took my citizenship exams, no one there knew how the White House came to be called the White House.

The ladder of success in Hollywood is usually a press agent, actor, director, producer, leading man; and you are a star if you sleep with each of them in that order. Crude, but true.

Any girl can be glamorous. All you have to do is stand still and look stupid.

Mr. DeMille’s theory of sexual difference was that marriage is an artificial state for women. They want to be taken, ruled, raped. That was his theory.
I liked oversexed people. The few I know were always talented and sensitive. I’m oversexed, and I’ve never kept that a secret.
American men, as a group, seem to be interested in only two things, money and breasts. It seems a very narrow outlook.

A good deal of sex is quite amusing. Maybe, especially in marriage, people overestimate the good or bad that serious sex can do.


It’s funny about men and women. Men pay in cash to get them and pay in cash to get rid of them. Women pay emotionally coming and going. Neither has it easy.
Perhaps my problem in marriage-and it is the problem of many women-was to want both intimacy and independence. It is a difficult line to walk, yet both needs are important to a marriage.

I am not ashamed to say that no man I ever met was my father’s equal, and I never loved any other man as much.



Mae West  (If I asked for a cup of coffee, someone would search for the double meaning).
Sex is emotion in motion.

Good sex is like good bridge. If you don’t have a good partner, you’d better have a good hand.

Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly.

An ounce of performance is worth pounds of promises.
A man can be short and dumpy and getting bald but if he has fire, women will like him.

A hard man is good to find.

I’ll try anything once, twice if I like it, three times to make sure.
I’m a woman of very few words, but lots of action.
I’ve been in more laps than a napkin.
I’ve been things and seen places.

When I’m good, I’m very good. But when I’m bad I’m better.

It’s not the men in my life that count, it’s the life in my men.

I only like two kinds of men, domestic and imported.
I speak two languages, Body and English.

It takes two to get one in trouble.

Ten men waiting for me at the door? Send one of them home, I’m tired.
The best way to hold a man is in your arms.
The score never interested me, only the game.
When women go wrong, men go right after them.

A man has one hundred dollars and you leave him with two dollars, that’s subtraction.
I never worry about diets. The only carrots that interest me are the number you get in a diamond.

Give a man a free hand and he’ll run it all over you.
I didn’t discover curves; I only uncovered them.

I wrote the story myself. It’s about a girl who lost her reputation and never missed it.
Look your best – who said love is blind?
Love conquers all things except poverty and toothache.
She’s the kind of girl who climbed the ladder of success wrong by wrong.


A flow of words is a sure sign of duplicity.
Honore De Balzac

A woman’s influence ought to be entirely concealed.

A woman knows the face of the man she loves as a sailor knows the open sea.

A young bride is like a plucked flower; but a guilty wife is like a flower that had been walked over.

Behind every great fortune lies a great crime.

Bureaucracy is a giant mechanism operated by pygmies.

Laws are spider webs through which the big flies pass and the little ones get caught.

Marriage must incessantly contend with a monster that devours everything: familiarity.

Nobody loves a woman because she is handsome or ugly, stupid or intelligent. We love because we love.

The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.

The more one judges, the less one loves.

There is no such thing as a great talent without great will power.

When women love us, they forgive us everything, even our crimes; when they do not love us, they give us credit for nothing, not even our virtues.

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State of mind….

Posted on February 9, 2007. Filed under: Quotes |

The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet.

J. Robert Oppenheimer (1904 – 1967). Best known for his role as the director of the Manhattan Project, the World War II effort to develop the first nuclear weapons, at the secret Los Alamos laboratory in New Mexico. He is widely beleieved to be the ‘Father of the Atomic Bomb’,

Oppenheimer was shocked by the weapon’s killing power after it was used to destroy the Japanese cities of Hiroshima and Nagasaki.

Quoting from the Bhagavad Gita, he said “If the radiance of a thousand suns were to burst at once in the sky, that would be like the splendor of the Mighty One. Now I am become Death, the destroyer of worlds.”

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Posted on February 8, 2007. Filed under: Quotes |

“I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve (or save) the world and a desire to enjoy (or savor) the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.”

E. B. White

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The moment is now… !

Posted on February 7, 2007. Filed under: Quotes |

“Yesterday is a canceled check: Forget it. Tomorrow is a promissory note: Don’t count on it. Today is ready cash: Use it!”.

W. Somerset Maugham

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On improving vocabulary

Posted on February 6, 2007. Filed under: Quotes |

The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and a lightning bug.

Mark Twain

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Posted on February 5, 2007. Filed under: Quotes |

“The average person puts only 25% of his energy and ability into his work. The world takes off its hat to those who put in more than 50% of their capacity, and stands on its head for those few and far between souls who devote 100%.”

Andrew Carnegie

Problem is…..if you put more than 40% then one starts burning out. So equal play/rest is a must…..but what kind of rest stimulates the mind? Sleep is good…..reading is good too……sports may be better…..or a hobby? But what?

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Language is the Blood of the Soul …

Posted on February 5, 2007. Filed under: Vocabulary/Words |

Descriptive words –

Arrogating — take or claim unreasonably, presumptuously, proudly. Goes to the extent of even Usurp  ………… arrogate to themselves the attributes of God.

Alienate — estrange, separate as though foreign or alien … behaviour which makes a friend a foe.

Agreived — unjustly injured or slighted or even opressed.

Blighted — impaired, withered, decayed, ruined, frustrated, even destroyed.

Confound — perplex, throw into confusion, overwhelm, defeat, discomfort

Countervail — oppose with equal power, counteract, off set, prevail against, thwart.

Denude — strip the covering from, lay bare.

Disdain — scorn, consider unworthy, to consider unsuitable and beneath one.

Stultified — made futile, made to appear foolish, neutralize strongly.

Vitiate — to spoil, make umpure, to impair the quality of .. bas habits vitiate character.

Wilfred Funk

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